So I grabbed an "axe" (metaphorically speaking), and "hacked out" all the dead wood in my life right then and there. I even remember feeling a little sad that I had to do it... to move on, but the experience was cathartic.

Getting rid of "dead wood" makes room for new and wonderful growth.

STIMULUS: Certainly, if they could only see what a wonderful Soul I am they would not be so awful.

RESPONSE: In fact, I'm quite sure they see what a wonderful soul you are. However, you are assuming that seeing your wonderfulness would change the essence of who THEY are. Not usually the case. Don't mistake THEIR behaviors as being caused by something in you. They are responsible for what they do.

I will add one bit of advice regarding people: they are projections of ourselves and our focus. If you are focusing on what's wrong with them then they will behave more and more 'wrongly'. If you are focused on yourself as being the impetus behind their 'wrong' behavior, then you will always be on the receiving end of 'wrong' behavior because that's what you have come to believe you are worthy of. Get my drift?

Taking a hatchet to unhealthy relationships is the best and quickest way to get on the path that we'd rather be on. Not only would 'letting go' of unhealthy people do wonders for your self-esteem, but it would also make room for wonderful new growth.

Copyright © 2002 Adrienne Cinelli All rights reserved.

Adrienne Cinelli is a spiritual life coach who resides in Rhode Island. In her own words: "I believe my journey in this life is to inspire others and illuminate them with the light of joy and appreciation for who they are and where they are in their journey."

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